Ah, the honeymood phase: the period at the beginning of a relationship that feels intoxicating, novel, and perfect. It may feel like magic, but the honeymoon phase has a lot of science behind it.
"In a neuropsychological way, what's happening in our brains is that we're getting a burst from nature in various forms of hormones and chemicals," therapist Mary Kay Cocharo told Women's Health.
This euphoric period generally only lasts up to two years, according to experts. However, many long-term couples manage to keep that spark alive for decades. It may not feel exactly like the natural high or "perfection" experienced in the early months of the relationship, but two-sided, intentional, and consistent effort can keep the flame of the fire burning strongly. With the right mindset and daily practices, it is possible to make your relationship feel just as alive and affectionate as it did at the beginning.
Curiosity
In the early days of dating, couples ask each other a million questions. They're genuinely fascinated by each other's quirks and stories, listen intently, and feel their love grow the more they learn. Over time, people assume they know everything about their partner, but in reality, individuals grow, change, and evolve. Treating your partner as someone you’re still discovering keeps emotional intimacy fresh.
Affection
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Do you remember when you first started dating and couldn't keep your hands off each other? While it's natural not to feel quite the same level of intensity after being together for a long time, don't underestimate the power of small touches, lingering hugs, and spontaneous kisses.
“We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth,” family therapist Virginia Satir famously said.
Most of us don't get nearly enough physical touch in our lives, even if we have a romantic partner. These small shows of affection may seem simple, but they create the same warm, bonding hormones that fueled your connection in the first place.
Novelty
The core principle around the touted 777 rule, which states you should go on a date every seven days, a one-night getaway every seven weeks, and a longer romantic vacation every seven months, is novelty. The brain thrives on new experiences, and sharing them with a partner strengthens attachment.
You don't need to go on extravagant adventures—it can be as simple as discovering a new restaurant, exploring a different hobby, taking a spontaneous weekend trip, or even rearranging your living space. Breaking the routine makes us feel alive.
Independence
You know the saying, "distance makes the heart grow fonder." Well, it's true! Being apart from your significant other can increase your affection for them because you miss them and appreciate them more. This is partly why maintaining your independence is so important.
Couples who spend every moment together often lose the chemistry that comes from mystery and individuality. Pursuing personal passions, friendships, and goals not only keeps you fulfilled but also gives your partner more to admire. A strong “me” creates a stronger “us.”
Couples who stay in the honeymoon phase are the ones who choose each other over and over again. They flirt, laugh, prioritize romance, continue to woo each other, and refuse to slip into autopilot.
