Beware the Bridezilla
Bridezillas are an interesting phenomenon. On the one hand, it doesn’t matter who you are—wedding planning stresses anyone out. On the other hand, some take micromanaging to the next level. Here are telltale signs you’re an easy-going bride-to-be…and signs you rival Godzilla.
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1. Losing Bridesmaids
Bridesmaids are often a wedding’s saving grace—they keep the bride calm, tackle an assortment of (reasonable) tasks, and ensure everything runs smoothly. However, controlling brides argue with them more often and might even notice a few holes in the guest list. When bridesmaids distance themselves from the wedding, something’s wrong.
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2. Spending Too Much
Weddings are expensive, that’s a given. Splurging on centerpieces or indulging in good food is one thing, but a total disregard for the budget is much worse. Partners agree on a budget beforehand and intentionally overspending puts undue stress on everyone.
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3. Constant Comparisons
Some brides stress way too much about the “perfect day.” We want weddings to off without a hitch, but constant comparison isn’t the answer. Unnecessary competition interferes with the wedding spirit, can lead to overspending, and causes way more stress.
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4. Micromanaging Everyone
Vendors are professionals—there’s no need to micromanage. Classic bridezillas breathe down the necks of caterers and wedding planners alike, leading to all sorts of tension. The last thing you want is to irritate those responsible for your wedding!
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5. Inflexibility
There’s no harm in asking for favors. There is, however, harm in a refusal to compromise. Expecting everyone to drop their plans is not only inconsiderate, it leads to conflict and unexpected road blocks, too.
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6. Strict Dress Codes
Dress codes are an integral part of any wedding. While you may not want guests to arrive in clown suits, it’s possible to implement too many rules. Strange themes or a refusal to admit guests is straight-up bridezilla behavior.
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7. Ignoring Opinions
“Weddings are for the woman” is a dated, long-standing joke. The truth is, wedding planning is for both parties. It’s important to keep an open mind during the process because shooting down any opinion—whether it’s from a vendor or even your partner—isn’t a good look.
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8. Disregard for Others
No one wants to deal with a bride who lacks empathy. Constant over-scheduling, disregarding schedules, and unreasonable demands are all quick ways to lose friends. Not to mention, it puts added stress on everyone.
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9. Fighting With People
Wedding stress is bound to cause a little friction, and that’s okay! What’s not okay is butting heads with everyone in the bridal party. Parties are there to take the edge off, so incessant squabbling only drives a wedge between you and your life raft.
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10. Unrealistic Expectations
In a perfect world, weddings would truly be perfect—uncles wouldn’t get hammered, no one would bring an uninvited plus-one, and that annoying aunt wouldn’t make a speech. But in the real world, things are bound to go awry and you need to roll with the punches. Unrealistic expectations drive everyone crazy, including yourself!
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But enough of the negatives! Let’s explore telltale signs that you’re an easy-going bride.
1. Self-Care
Prioritizing self-care is crucial throughout the planning process. Taking time for a bubble bath or even just to unwind after a long day does wonders for your health. It also helps to keep you relaxed for whatever tomorrow brings.
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2. Open to Suggestions
Keep an open mind about suggestions. Whether it’s from your bridal party or your partner, brainstorm ideas with them, don’t just fluff off their opinions. You never know what contributions will be a eureka moment.
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3. Shows Gratitude
Everyday appreciation goes further than you think. A little gratitude creates a positive atmosphere for everyone—vendors are more delighted to work with you, bridesmaids aren’t afraid to call, and your stress meter won’t overload.
4. Handles Stress Well
Speaking of stress meters, stay calm in the eye of a storm. Composure in stressful situations affects everyone around you. Yes, some scenarios are worse than others, but leaning on your support system instead of freaking out does a world of good.
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5. Embraces Imperfections
We’ve all heard the phrase, “God laughs at our plans.” Well, it’s a good reminder, especially during wedding season. You can plan and plan, but something will inevitably go wrong. Just remember to embrace imperfections and tackle problems with a clear head.
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6. Values Marriage Over Wedding
Somewhere deep down, we all dream of that fairytale wedding. While there’s nothing wrong with wanting one for yourself, don’t let that dream distract you from the important things. True, easy-going brides value marriage over a lavish wedding.
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7. Keeps a Sense of Humor
Make room for laughter! Breezy brides-to-be find humor in the unexpected and use it to their advantage, making the planning process better for everyone. When life gives you lemons, it’s always better to make lemonade.
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8. Avoids Over-Scheduling
Easy-going brides won’t pack their (or other’s) schedule. Maintaining a relaxed calendar ensures everyone still has time to live their own lives. It also allows vendors more time to put everything together.
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9. Communicates Effectively
It doesn’t matter if you’re speaking to a partner or a florist—effective communication is key! Calmly talking things out keeps everyone on the same page. It also builds a better foundation between parties and reduces any conflict.
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10. Trusts People
It’s tempting to micromanage, but resist the urge! Placing your trust in vendors or your bridal party shows you’re willing to delegate. It alleviates some pressure from you, too.
