With 50 percent of all marriages ending in divorce, the dating pool is rife with divorced men. While dating a guy who's newly separated from a marriage can be tough, don’t write it off entirely; they can actually make far better partners than men who have never been committed to someone in the same way.
At the end of the day, it comes down to connection, but don’t cross a prospective partner off your list just because he was previously married. According to relationship experts, divorced men are often more emotionally mature, grounded, and intentional than men who have always been dating. While no two people are the same, here are five compelling reasons why dating a divorced man can be rewarding.
1. He knows what he wants
Divorced men generally have a better idea of who they are and what they want. Marriage and separation are full of challenges, and there’s no doubt that he’s learned from them. A divorced man usually has a clearer picture of what he’s looking for in a partner and a relationship. There’s far less guesswork and more honesty.
2. He knows how to commit
A man who’s never been married, especially if he’s in his forties or older, should be a bigger red flag than one who’s divorced. At least you know with the divorced guy that he’s not afraid of commitment because he’s already made one of the largest commitments one can.
3. He’s emotionally grounded
After experiencing love, heartbreak, and loss, divorced men are usually more emotionally intelligent and available than one who hasn’t been married. Divorce is almost never easy. He’s been through the ringer and emerged out the other side stronger, more self-aware, and empathic than before.
4. He’s learned from experience
All relationships are hard work, but especially marriages. They take careful communication, consideration, and compromise. There’s no doubt he’s encountered conflict and learned how to deal with it, done emotional work, and has the wisdom and maturity to be a strong and dependable partner.
5. He’s realistic about love
Most of us are ingrained with a certain idealism that comes with first loves. Divorced men have seen sparkly feelings devolve and crumble, sometimes into ugliness. While painful, it gives them more realistic expectations about love. They’re not looking for someone who’s going to be perfectly pleasant all the time; they want something real.
So, if a man is divorced, don’t see it as a negative; it could turn out to be your strongest, most honest, and fulfilling relationship yet.
