Quick, it’s a pop quiz: what’s the best way to impress a man? Do you show up on his doorstep with a toolbox and a case of beer? Do you serenade him under his window with a bottle of merlot and tickets to a show? (They’ll probably appreciate the initiative either way, so it’s not even that far of a stretch!)
Sure, you could compliment him or take an interest in his hobbies—which are actually good ideas, by the way—but there’s one little request that really gets the blood flowing with that guy in your life. If you have someone you’d like to schmooze, stick around because we’re about to dive into the fastest ways to his heart.
Let Him Know You’re Interested
“Show me.” That’s it. We know it sounds a little pedestrian on the surface, but those two simple words actually open a can of worms every time—and it’s not always in a spicy way! We all know that guys are natural problem-solvers, so when you pave the way for their advice, their knowledge, or their expertise, it lets them know just how much you trust them.
Even outside of the practical stuff, “show me” invites them to delve into their interests as well. Are they big on model cars? Do they have a favorite movie? Who knows, maybe he likes to make greeting cards in his spare time! However he enjoys his off-hours, allowing him to gab about what matters not only shows your interest, but it also lets him feel seen in a safe environment.
And speaking of fun, who knew two words had so much power in the boudoir? If you feel comfortable with him and want to kick it up a notch, let him put his money where his mouth is. Does he have any new moves he wants to try? Does he talk a big game? Well, there’s no harm in letting him show off!
Subtle Strategies That Also Work
“Show me” is a bit on the nose, no matter what context you use it in. There’s a certain je ne sais quoi that makes it a confident term, and it’s not always easy to use on guys, especially if you haven’t known them for very long. That’s okay—there are still plenty of ways to woo them.
One of the quickest ways to impress someone is with a genuine compliment! We’re not talking about blanket statements, either; comment on something he can control. While it’s always nice to hear that you have nice eyes, genuine compliments take note of effort; his clothing, his hair, and even his parenting style are all up for grabs. Complimenting specific aspects lets him feel appreciated for the things he does, not just the things he has.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with complimenting the physical stuff! However, you won’t earn any brownie points for ogling his height; instead, focus on the striking details, like his smile or his personality. You’ll get a lot farther by saying, “I love your sense of humor” rather than “I’ve always wanted a guy over six feet tall.”
Why Does Initiative Matter So Much?
It doesn’t take much to discover that men hardly get complimented. It’s just not built into their world the same way it is for women! Ladies will comment on each other’s nails, each other’s hair—they’ll stop one another in the street for a fire outfit. Men, on the other hand, sit idly by and wait for their turn. Well, no longer! Compliments are an amazing way to show someone you care and that you see them for who they are.
They're also a great way to show someone respect. You respect their effort. You respect their attention to detail. You respect their personality. There’s nothing wrong with a generic comment, but there’s a reason they say the devil’s in the details. Focusing on something specific is the kind of acknowledgement that fuels our day.
Romantic gestures can also go a long way with the fellas. Who said you can’t just show up with flowers? Why not treat them to dinner after a long week at work? Something as simple as a movie night at home gives you both a chance to relax and vent about any lingering issues. It’s all about creating a safe space for you both!
Even in today’s world, men are still expected to make the first move, to pay for the first date, or be the one to text you the day after. The thing is, relationships are built on a mutual give-and-take, so you don’t need to wait for him to approach you. Rock your confidence and let him know you’re interested! The right guy won’t take it as a “threat” to his masculinity; he’ll welcome the move with open arms and an open dialogue.
