Can You Step Into My Office?
There’s nothing more intimidating than a performance review. Sure, you could score a juicy raise…or you could sit there while your boss fires off all your insecurities. You never really know what will happen, but there is a silver lining. With the right phrases and tactics, you can maneuver your way around any uncomfortable discussions. It’s time we explored a few things you should never say, and a few things you always should!
1. “I Need More Money Than This”
Employees need to trust that they’re given a raise proportional to their performance and the company’s budget. Even if you’d like something a little higher, asking for more makes you look unprofessional—and worse, ungrateful.
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2. “Everyone Has Noticed…”
It doesn’t matter if you’re the boss or the employee: claiming that “everyone in the office” has noticed something is a good way to alienate people. It’s never a good idea to speak for everyone, especially if it can land them in hot water. It’s also not a good way to emphasize your personal feelings.
3. “That Wasn’t My Fault”
Defending yourself is one thing (more on that later), but claiming that something “wasn’t your fault” is a bad look. The truth is, deflecting responsibility can make you look vengeful against your co-workers. Not only that, it can also reveal a lack of self-awareness, which is something managers note.
4. “How Would You Rate Yourself?”
This one’s more for the bosses out there. Try not to ask employees how they’d rate themselves—that’s why they’re meeting with you! As the boss, it’s your job to be upfront with them, no matter how uncomfortable it may be; shifting that responsibility only creates tension.
5. “That’s Not Fair”
We understand that some managers are nightmares, but employees can’t just stamp their feet during performance reviews. Defensive language or behavior can make you look unprofessional, and it’s not something you want to present in the boss’s office.
6. “We Did It As a Team”
It’s important to acknowledge teamwork, but this is your review! If you were responsible for an incredible job, take credit for it. It’s good that your boss knows how much you care about your job and just how valuable you are in your position.
7. “That’s Not Part of My Job”
As much as we’d love to say this to our manager, we just can’t. It’s one thing if they expect you to take on an entirely different role, but it’s another when they ask you to step outside of your comfort zone. Denying the opportunity can make you look ungrateful and like you’re not a team player.
8. “But” Statements
“I know that, but…” Unfortunately, that one little word can cause a whole lot of trouble. It’s a confrontational word, and it’s even worse if you already have your back up during the review. A simple way to get your point across is to try swapping “but” with “and.” You welcome more discussion and don’t look defensive.
9. “What About Them?”
As we mentioned, this is your review—try not to bring up co-workers, even if you know they’re a detriment. Asking about others or shifting blame to them makes you look unprofessional. Worse, it makes you look like you’re out to get someone, which actually makes you look like the villain!
10. “I Can’t Handle That”
Don’t sell yourself short during a performance review. While it’s okay to get jitters about new roles, it’s important to accept that responsibility with confidence. Managers want the reassurance that you can handle what they throw at you, not clam up and walk away.
You can’t exactly script a performance review, but you can walk in with a few notes that help sell your value! Let’s dive into a few examples of what you should say.
1. “How Can I Help?”
Why wait for your boss to ask? If you have ideas for improvements or want more responsibilities, there’s nothing wrong with inquiring. Your boss might not even take you up on the offer—but they’ll remember the initiative.
2. “I’ve Developed This Skill”
Performance reviews are all about development! While you don’t need to get cocky, you can certainly mention ways you’ve grown and new skills you’ve picked up. Those mentions not only solidify your value, but they also display confidence.
3. “May I Suggest Something?”
Many managers ask for potential company improvements—now’s your time to shine. Have you noticed little ways to revamp the workplace? Have you noticed anything in particular departments? Concrete ideas are usually welcomed with open arms, and it also shows your interest in the company.
4. “I Know Where I Can Improve”
Of course, improvements don’t always happen in the company. Sometimes, they happen right inside your cubicle. Though you don’t need to make up phony problems, you can acknowledge any minor setbacks and your plans to get better. It shows management that you care enough to strengthen your skillset and that you’re aware of issues.
5. Manager Feedback
This one can be a little daunting! Not everyone wants to swing the hammer on their boss, but there’s nothing wrong with making light suggestions. Remember: their performance is just as important to company success as your own.
6. “I” Statements
“You” statements are a bit too confrontational for performance reviews. A good way to skirt around them is with simple “I” statements. That swap can open the floor to discussion, which eliminates any potential awkwardness.
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7. Future Goals
What does your future with the company look like? How do you want your role to evolve? These are just a few questions to ask yourself beforehand—prepared answers let managers know you’ve thought about your position and want to stick around as the company grows.
8. Discuss Your Achievements
Hey, it’s your review; show off a little! Keep track of your accomplishments throughout the year and mention them during the meeting. Managers are often so busy that they don’t always remember who did what and why it was valuable. Now’s the time to remind them just how much of an asset you are.
9. Overall Company Development
It’s only fair that employees know where the company is headed. If management hasn’t kept you informed, ask about it in the review. You work there, too, and it’s vital that you know where you’re headed, how the company is doing, and what their plans are for the future.
10. Slight Pushback
It’s a fine line between defending yourself and fighting managers. You don’t want to just agree with everything they say, but you also don’t want to lose your temper. Keep a level head and maintain professionalism throughout; don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself, either.
