10 Things Masculine Men Do On Dates & 10 Things New Age Ones Do
10 Things Masculine Men Do On Dates & 10 Things New Age Ones Do
Two Styles, Same Goal
Dating hasn’t changed as much as people think, but the way men show up definitely has. Some lean into classic confidence and structure, while others favor emotional openness and flexibility. Neither approach is perfect or doomed, but the contrast can be pretty entertaining once you notice it.
1. They Take the Lead Early
He tells you where he wants to go, suggests a time, and plans it without hemming and hawing. There’s no wondering what he wants to do because he already has a plan formed in his mind. Trusting him not to waste your time actually frees you up to relax instead of controlling.
2. They Show Up Put Together
His clothes aren’t too big or too small, his shoes aren’t muddy, and he smells like he put thought into what he’s wearing and how he smells. Even if he’s super basic his outfit looks premeditated. You can tell he cared enough to look nice and put it together for you.
3. They Keep the Conversation Grounded
He doesn’t bombard you with stories about his past the second you sit down. Yes, you learn about him throughout the date but it doesn’t feel like an interview or like you’re getting his life story. Sharing is great, confessing is not relational.
4. They Listen Without Performing
Guys like this don’t furiously nod their heads and project every story back on their life. He actually listens to what you’re saying when you talk. You feel heard because he’s taking everything in without drama.
5. They’re Comfortable With Silence
There aren’t 10 seconds of awkward silence while he tries to think of something witty to say to you. He sits with you in the lulls and remains chill. Often you find your stress melting away when he’s cool like that.
6. They Keep Their Phone Away
His phone is tucked away until it’s time to go. He’s giving you his undivided attention and it speaks volumes. Extra points if he doesn’t take random calls when it rings.
7. They Flirt Without Overexplaining
When guys like you there are no, “hey if I didn’t think you were ugly I’d say you’re pretty” compliments. He doesn’t ask your permission to pursue you or tell you you’re hot. It just is.
8. They Handle Logistics Smoothly
If they get food you don’t watch him panic over an incorrect order or faff about who should pay for what. They aren’t screaming at the kitchen about your diet salad having dressing on it. You know they can handle life stress in their relationship if this isn’t a big deal.
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9. They End the Date Clearly
He doesn’t dodge eye contact and run out the door nor does he ignore the goodbye hug and make up an excuse to leave. He tells you he had a good time and means it. You end the date feeling respected.
10. They Follow Up With Intention
It’s simple but it tells the whole story. You know where you stand because he clearly communicates his interest. There aren’t little games or beating around the bush to get to the point.
Here’s where things shift, because the New Age ones take quite a different approach.
1. They Ask What You Feel Like Doing
There isn’t a firm plan, he starts off by throwing suggestions your way or simply asking. He wants you to feel in control from the get-go. Half the time this is sweet, half the time it just makes more work for you.
2. They Lead With Vulnerability
Expect to hear all about his past relationships and emotional baggage before the cheesecake hits the table. New age men tend to think being vulnerable right out the gate equals instant intimacy. Maybe it does…
3. They Talk About Energy and Alignment
Your vibe is more important than your attire. Conversation will include how your energy is, how he feels around you, if this ‘feels right’ or ‘aligns’ with what he wants. This man is going to feel you out constantly.
4. They’re Big on Verbal Validation
He’s going to pepper the date with affirmations and head nods so you know he’s listening intently. Expect lots of comments on your spiritual beauty rather than your physical beauty. Sure he’s generous with the compliments but they are always the same exact ones.
5. They Process Out Loud
Rarely does he keep his thoughts to himself which means you’ll hear what he’s thinking out loud. Half the time he’ll say something along the lines of, “wow I feel weird saying this right now but…” NIt starts to feel less and less like a date the longer it goes on.
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6. They’re Flexible to a Fault
Everything is subject to change with them. If your body decides you want to move somewhere else, they’re down. There is literally no structure when you plan with them. Comfort is key.
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7. They Emphasize Equality in Every Detail
Expect them to go out of their way to confirm that yes, you two will split the bill and no, he doesn’t expect you to just get drinks. He is hyperaware of trying to make sure neither of you is just assuming the other person wants to do something a certain way. Whether this is a good or bad thing is up to you, but it lacks a certain level of initiative.
8. They Reference Personal Growth
Journaling, meditation, therapy…any form of self reflection or betterment comes up. You’ll know within the first 5 minutes he spent some serious coin on himself and his sanity. Usually the date just becomes him showing off how much he’s healed.
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9. They Check for Consent Verbally
So you went in for a kiss and what do you get? “Hey, is it cool if I kiss you?” Ummm no Shakespeare, no. It’s beyond considerate, it’s nerding the hell out of romance.
10. They Reflect on the Date Afterward
Odds are he’ll send you a message about how he felt on the date or ask how your experience was. There’s room for discussion rather than assumption. It feels a lot more open and honest, but it can feel like an exit interview at times.
