10 Signs You're Ready For The "What Are We?" Talk & 10 Possible Outcomes To Prepare For
10 Signs You're Ready For The "What Are We?" Talk & 10 Possible Outcomes To Prepare For
Want To Make Your Situationship A Relationship?
Modern dating is a confusing minefield. You can devote a lot of time to a person before any label gets involved. While it's nice to really get to know a person through casual hangs and weekend sleepovers, there comes a point where the carefree nature of things can actually be anxiety-inducing. In case you're wondering whether it's time to bring it up, here are 10 signs you might be ready to have the conversation, plus 10 possible outcomes to keep in mind.
1. You Feel A Deep Connection
The foremost reason you should be considering "the talk" is that you feel deeply connected to your partner. It's not just a fling to you anymore.
2. You Crave Clarity
Many people can go on existing in uncertainty for several months or even years, but that may not be you. If you feel anxious without clarity, it's better to have "the talk" even if it doesn't go your way.
3. You've Spent A Lot Of Time Together
In modern dating, you generally have to spend a significant time together before broaching the subject of exclusivity. There's no hard and fast rule, but it should definitely be more than just a few dates.
4. You Desire Commitment
You're at a point in your life where you're ready for a committed relationship. Even if "the talk" doesn't end up with you being exclusive with this person, at least you can stop wasting time and find the right one.
5. You Can Envision A Future With Them
If you're thinking about an exclusive relationship, chances are you can probably picture a life together. Don't just let that vision sit in your head; talk about the future together, make casual plans, and drop little hints to see how they react.
6. You See Each Other Regularly
Beyond spending a lot of time together, you also need to be consistent. If you've only been seeing each other sporadically, the conversation would seem far too out of the blue.
7. You're Not Interested In Anyone Else
Being exclusive means you won't be seeing other people, so you shouldn't be interested in anyone else if you're thinking about moving in that direction. While it's normal to find others attractive, prioritizing your partner should come easily.
8. You Feel Secure Enough To Ask
You and your partner should feel secure and open with each other to the point where you're comfortable enough to broach the topic of exclusivity. This is the backbone of a healthy relationship.
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9. You've Met Their Circle
If they've felt comfortable enough to introduce you to their close friends and family, it's a sign they're serious about you. If you have a good rapport with their inner circle, that's even better.
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10. You Have Compatible Values
You've spoken about core values and have concluded that they mostly align. While they don't have to be identical, having compatible values will make being in a committed relationship a lot easier.
Now that we've discussed some of the signs that say you're ready for "the talk," let's go over some of the possible outcomes you should be prepared for.
1. They Say They're Not Ready Yet
A very common response to "the talk" is that they're not ready. If this is their response, don't lose hope. It's not a staunch no; it just means they need time, so be patient.
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2. They Say Yes
One of the best possible outcomes is that they agree to be in a relationship with you. This is cause for celebration. Well done, you!
3. They Tell You They're Seeing Other People
Maybe a less favorable response is that they tell you they're seeing other people and aren't ready to stop. Up to this point, you were undefined, so try not to be hurt by this response. Instead, focus on how you want to proceed.
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4. They Were Already Committed To You
Some people don't need the clarity of "the talk." There's a chance your partner was already fully committed to you before you brought it up. They might be surprised you're even asking.
5. They Want To Take A Break Instead
Your partner might respond with "let's take a break." This is usually a sign that they're realizing you have mismatched intentions and want to take a pause.
6. They Dodge
Your partner may change the subject to dodge the talk. This can be disappointing, but it essentially means they're not ready. Persist if you feel it's necessary.
7. They Say They Don't Want Anything Serious
If they say they don't want anything serious, it's disappointing if you were hoping for something more, but at least it's direct. You can move on with clarity.
8. They Prefer To See Where This Goes
If they respond by preferring to go with the flow, it's non-committal and vague. However, if you're laid back, it might work out in the end, especially if you can just let go and enjoy your time together.
9. They Only See You As A Casual Partner
If they respond that they only see you as a "friend with benefits" type of situation, it can hurt, but don't let it get you down. You have clarity now, and you can move on because you deserve something real.
10. You Both Walk Away, But At Least You Have Clarity
It may not be the response you were hoping for, but having clarity sets you free. It might be hard for some time, but you'll get over it and move o,n and find someone who aligns better with your desires and goals.
