Decoding a man’s signals can be as baffling as a detective novel. You replay conversations, analyze emojis, and question whether his mixed messages are signs at all. But amidst the web of words and subtle behaviors, one signal outshines the rest. It illuminates his intentions with blinding clarity. A man who’s into you puts in effort. Genuine, consistent, and meaningful effort.
No Excuses
A guy who’s truly interested doesn’t wait around for you to text him first; he takes the initiative. He makes the effort to reach out, to start conversations, to find reasons to talk to you.
He will text you good morning. He will call to see how you are. He will send you something that reminds him of you. He will circle back on something you said days ago. And he does it even when he doesn’t necessarily have a reason to, just because he wants to talk to you. In most relationships, the person who reaches out more is the one who’s putting in more effort. It’s just a matter of fact: we make time for people we like.
He Creates Opportunities
When a guy likes you, he will relocate to be near you. He sits next to you at a party. He leans in when you speak. He’ll find a way to walk you out, stick around after a conversation, or come with you somewhere. And yes, the “accidental” touching is completely intentional.
This is because humans naturally reduce the physical space between themselves and people they like. It’s instinctive; we want to be near them. Men will literally walk across a room just to be near the woman they like. They think they’re being sneaky. But trust me, they’re not. Proximity is work. And work is interest!
He Remembers the Small Things
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A guy who likes you listens. He’s not doing it because he’s just been handed some tips on how to flirt. He remembers that you take oat milk in your coffee, the name of your childhood dog, the show you’re binging, and the deadline you were freaking out about. He remembers offhand remarks and checks in about them later. He’s listening hard, taking mental notes, and resurfacing them because he knows your life is important to you.
It’s also literally in our brains: we have better memory recall for people that we’re attracted to. If a guy can forget the name of his coworker for three years straight, and yet remembers something you said once at 11 p.m. on a Tuesday? That’s obvious.
You’re Never Unsure of His Feelings
The big indicator of them all, the one that connects all the dots, is this: you’re never unsure of his feelings. You’re never second-guessing if he likes you. You don’t have to do tests and quizzes online to figure out his true feelings. Overall, you’re never questioning his intention.
A man who likes you doesn’t gamble with making you feel uncertain. He’s there. He texts. He remembers. He makes it a priority. He finds the time. He puts in the work. Because when a man wants you in his life, he shows up like it. Every time.
