Getting engaged is an exciting time in any couple's life, but you should never treat it as if you've officially tied the knot already. Getting the ring simply means you're both prepared to work toward marriage, not that you already are. Because letting your guard down during this period is more dangerous than you might think - a lot of bumps can arise if you're not careful!
You should never expect your relationship to just be smooth sailing the moment you get engaged. You still need to put effort into the relationship and be mindful of each other - as you should for the rest of your life together! To help you understand that you can't be stuck in a daydream about engagement, here are three things that can sometimes cause people to cancel.
Emotional Immaturity
Nothing will force you to grow up faster than the realization that you're about to get married. For some people, understanding that marriage comes with a lot of responsibility doesn't hit them until late into the engagement. Because no, it's not just about planning a beautiful ceremony, you're preparing yourself to spend the rest of your life with someone, sharing in their hardships and responsibilities, too.
People who don't understand that right out of the gate unfortunately lack the emotional maturity to get married in the first place. As soon as they come to terms with the heavy weight of this reality, they may back out of fear due to being scared of meeting expectations or being burdened with such a commitment. You can call it cold feet if you'd like, but to us, it sounds more like being a coward.
Financial Instability
There are a lot of costs that come with getting married, both in preparation for the ceremony, and the life you'll be sharing with your partner afterward. If you don't have your finances ready to go, you're going to be in for a lot of struggle and pain. Most people often overlook just how much burden financial struggles can put on a couple, but what they don't know is that it's often a leading cause of divorce!
And yet, many couples only realize this during their engagement when forced to confront their lack of funds. Sometimes, it simply doesn't hit you until you have to face it! Coming to terms with the fact that you might not have the money to support you and your partner's married life may make you reevaluate getting married to begin with.
Maybe some saving needs to be done before the knot can be tied, and that's okay. It's better to spend your time being fully prepared to tackle marriage instead of rushing into it. These things take time.
Unresolved Conflict
Has something been stirring deep down inside you for a long time now, something that you thought you could hold in forever? When marriage is right before your eyes, that's when all those unresolved, deep-seated conflicts come bubbling up for air. Because when you're about to spend the rest of your life with someone, it's hard not to let go of all the things worrying you.
For some couples who have been harboring those negative feelings for a long time, it may just turn into a major argument that is capable of ending an engagement. It all depends on the severity of the conflict. If anything, this should teach you to develop better communication skills with your partner while you can, because you definitely don't want anything ugly baring its teeth when it matters the most.
Final Comments
With these three things in mind, we hope you'll be able to better navigate your engagement and properly resolve any issues before the big day comes. Remember, at the end of the day, there's nothing a bit of good communication, trust, and understanding between partners can't handle. If you're meant to be together, you'll be able to weather any storm.
