Does Your Colleague Change Their Tone Around You?
A work flirt can be a lot of fun, but you have to first recognize that it's happening, and not something you're misinterpreting. Luckily, there are usually some clear signs that your co-worker likes you more than just a colleague. Here are 20 ways that a co-worker is flirting with you.
1. They Find Reasons to Be Near You
A co-worker who always hangs around your desk, finds you at lunch, or happens to attend meetings you're in, is probably seeking a way to spend more time with you. Proximity alone isn't proof of flirting, but if it happens consistently, then something is up.
2. Their Body Language Changes Around You
Flirtatious body language is typically inviting and can include leaning in, maintaining sustained eye contact, and mirroring movements. If you notice these subtle indicators from a colleague, then they might be finding ways to flirt with you professionally.
3. They Remember Small Details About You
If a co-worker knows your coffee or lunch order by heart, remembers your weekend plans, or personal details like your pet's name, it often suggests they've taken a genuine interest in you. Flirty co-workers focus on details that others might ignore.
4. They Always Compliment You
It might be flirting if your co-worker compliments you in a way that goes beyond professionalism. They might comment on your laugh, outfit, or notice that you've been working out more. Respectful praise at work is normal, but personal compliments hint at more.
5. They Tone Changes When Speaking With You
You might notice a co-worker's voice softening around you or becoming more playful. This tonal shift may reveal emotional engagement that exceeds normal workplace talk.
6. They Tease You Lightly
Good-natured teasing is a classic form of flirting, and the office is not that much different than the schoolyard. It's meant to be lighthearted and not hurtful, but signals comfort and a desire to create inside jokes to bond over.
7. They Contact You Beyond Work Topics
When texting and messaging extend beyond work-related matters, it reflects a desire to connect more deeply. It can be a meme, joke, or random check-in, but it's a sign that they have more than work talk on their mind.
8. They Make Efforts to Look Their Best Around You
A co-worker who suddenly puts in obvious effort into their appearance might be dressing to impress you. Their effort will be extra apparent if they have a meeting scheduled with you that day.
9. They Always Offer to Help You
It often signals more than enthusiasm for teamwork if a co-worker always offers to assist you with projects or minor tasks. They are showing thoughtfulness and a desire to spend more time with you.
10. They Find Excuses for Physical Proximity
A light shoulder tap, standing a bit too close during conversations, or always sitting beside you in a meeting indicates mild flirtation. They're sending a message, even if it's a very subtle one. These gestures might be subconscious or meant to foster closeness, and hopefully, they still respect the boundaries of your personal space.
11. They Mirror Your Emotions
If you find that a coworker's expressions and mood always match yours, it shows emotional attunement. They might laugh when you laugh, empathize immediately, or be happy when you're in a good mood. This emotional mirroring is a sign of their interest.
12. They Seek Your Opinion Often
A flirty co-worker might seek your opinion often, even if they don't take your advice. This is about inviting connection and trying to get more intimate, rather than believing in your wisdom.
13. They Give You Nicknames
Office nicknames might be common, but they can also be a clear sign of affection and exclusivity. It's usually playful and can create a private sense of closeness within a professional space.
14. They Notice Changes in Your Mood or Appearance
A co-worker who picks up on minor shifts in your mood or appearance is being awfully attentive. They might notice if you're a little quieter one morning, or a new tie or dress you're wearing. It shows they are more invested in you than a casual work friendship.
15. They Laugh at Your Jokes
Genuine laughter can be contagious in the office, but someone who finds everything you say to be funny is leaving a trail of clues that they see you in an overly positive light. This can easily be a way of flirting, and let's be honest, no one is that funny.
16. They Talk About the Future
A flirty co-worker might reference future activities that include you, regardless of your personal or career plans. They might be implementing a low-risk way to test whether you want to spend more time with them.
17. They Compliment You With Gentle Humor
Gentle jokes that compliment how you deal with a client or conduct yourself in a meeting can be a co-worker's way of conveying their admiration for you. It's a smart flirting tactic as it maintains a professional tone.
18. They Engage You During Group Conversations
If they always direct questions or jokes your way during social events, meetings, or group chats, it may reflect their desire to get your attention. They might also be doing it to divert your attention away from someone else.
19. They Get Nervous Around You
If you spot a co-worker fidgeting, blushing, or stumbling over words around you, they might be feeling self-conscious in your presence. This type is flirting is their attempt to make a good impression on you.
20. They Always Celebrate or Acknowledge You
Flirty co-workers often use milestones, like birthdays or successful projects, as opportunities to bring you a gift, buy you lunch, or heap extra praise on you. These gestures are professional on the surface, but personal in intent.
