Be The Girl He Wants
Dates can be thrilling. Dates can be terrifying. Dates can be really damn uncomfortable. One of the simplest ways to have a natural, fun date is by talking. Guys want you to ask them about stuff. Not just, “What do you do?” or “Where are you from?” These 20 conversation topics will lead to a real connection, giggles, and memories.
1. Childhood Memories
Men like to talk about their childhood when they know you care. Ask him about his favorite games growing up, special family traditions or memories from school. Bonus points if you share your own childhood memories with him too.
2. Personal Passions
Move past basic hobbies like “I like movies.” Ask him what makes him lose track of time or what he would do if money was no object. Once a guy knows you want to hear what he’s passionate about, he’s more than happy to tell you.
3. Dream Travel Spots
Who doesn’t like to daydream about getting away? Ask him where he would travel if he won a ticket somewhere and why that place. He’ll be able to tell you all about his favorite locations and share stories from his trips.
4. Guilty Pleasures
Guilty pleasures are fun to share with others, and men love talking about things they love but can’t publicly endorse. Ask him about his favorite junk food, trashy TV shows or ridiculous hobbies. He’ll appreciate your curiosity (and subsequent laughter).
5. Favorite Books or Movies
Get right to the good stuff by asking him about his favorite book or movie. You can learn a lot about a man from what he enjoys reading or watching. Throw your favorites into the mix once he answers!
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6. Life Lessons Learned
Men secretly love this question. Most guys aren’t afraid to admit they were wrong about something if you let them. Ask him about a time he learned a lesson the hard way and encourage him to share the story.
7. Career Dreams
Jump past his current job title and ask him what he loves about what he does. Find out what his dream project or end career goal is. He’ll be excited to tell you about what he loves to do.
8. Favorite Childhood Foods
Food is always a good conversation topic. Ask him what he looked forward to as a kid or what his go-to meals were. It’s funny to learn what your dates ate as children.
9. Hidden Talents
Guys love to brag about their special skills they never get to talk about. Ask your guy if he has any talents or if there’s something people don’t know he can do. It can be as simple as tying a fancy knot with a piece of string.
10. How He Spends Alone Time
Asking how someone likes to spend their alone time is a great way to show you care without getting too personal. Inquire about his favorite hobbies he likes to do by himself. It’s a very gentle way of showing interest.
11. Embarrassing Moments
Men tend to downplay awkward situations in their lives. By asking him about one of these experiences, you can both laugh about it together and create a new funny story to remember. This builds instant chemistry.
12. Role Models or Influences
Men love to tell others about people who have inspired them. Ask him who is his role model and what they mean to him. They don’t have to be household names or famous at all.
13. Weekend Routines
Many people’s plans are boring when you ask them what they do on weekends. Ask him about weekend rituals he has, his favorite spots to visit or things he tries to do every weekend. It shows you are genuinely interested and not just asking for the sake of asking.
14. Music Preferences
Music makes us feel all sorts of emotions and reminisce about old times. Ask him what music he can’t get enough of and listen to some of his favorite songs too. Who knows? You might even get him to listen to some of your favorites and get him hooked on a new band.
15. Fun “What If” Scenarios
Anything you can think of to finish this sentence will work. “If you could time travel, where would you go?” “If you could eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?” These questions are great because they make people think and are super fun.
16. Bucket List Items
Men love telling people about their gigantic goals. Ask him what’s on his bucket list and what he wants to accomplish in life. You might find that you share some of them.
17. Life-Changing Experiences
Everyone has life experiences that change their outlook. Ask your guy what moments in his life really changed who he was as a person. It makes him open up without it being too forward.
18. Favorite Sports or Activities
Don’t be afraid to ask about sports even if you aren’t a fan yourself. He’ll love you for showing interest in what he loves. Ask him about his favorite teams, games he won’t miss or activities he likes to participate in.
19. Technology or Gaming Interests
Men like to talk about anything tech related, gaming or some fun app he can’t live without. Ask him what the coolest new tech gadget he bought lately or what game he loves playing. It will get him to totally geek out and appreciate your interest.
20. Personal Achievements
Men love bragging about what they’ve done. Ask him about things he’s proud of that he wants to share with you. He’ll feel proud to tell you and you can encourage him by applauding his accomplishments.
