From Overstimulated to Rejuvenated
From making small talk at the cashier counter to presenting in a work meeting, plenty of situations can drain an introvert's energy, leaving them exhausted by the end of the day. Whether you relate to this yourself or you're looking to better understand your introverted friend, this list might provide some insight. Here are 10 things introverts find absolutely draining—and 10 activities that boost their energy.
1. Small Talk
It's not that introverts aren't curious enough about other people to engage in small talk with them; rather, they care too deeply about others, so meaningless, surface-level conversations feel wasteful and unnecessary compared to thought-provoking discussions. They'd much rather skip the superficial pleasantries and get on with their day.
2. Large Social Gatherings
Introverts sometimes feel recharged when spending valuable time with their friends, but large social gatherings, like parties and networking events, can drain their energy dry. It's not enough that they need to be constantly chatting and mingling, but throw strangers into the mix, and it only gets worse.
3. Crowds
Like large social gatherings, crowds of any size can also drain introverts. They might feel "trapped" with nowhere to go or no way of escape, and the sensory overload—the constant chatter, the lack of personal space—can feel overwhelming.
4. Constant Noise
Speaking of crowds, constant noise also puts introverts on edge. It's similar to being stuck in a crowd, as persistent, continuous chatter can make introverts feel like they have no space to process their thoughts and feelings effectively.
5. Being Put on the Spot
Whereas extroverts might enjoy icebreakers and group activities, introverts freeze up the moment they hear they'll need to present or introduce themselves in a large circle. Being suddenly put on the spot strips introverts of their chance to formulate their thoughts and words, and having to be in the center of attention only makes it more anxiety-inducing.
6. Work Meetings
Work meetings may often be long and monotonous, and while they're draining for everyone involved, they're especially tiring for introverts. Why? Because they feel like they need to constantly be alert, ready to contribute, and anticipate being put on the spot.
7. Being Interrupted
Introverts need time to think and process their ideas, and when they're interrupted, it can feel not only draining but also extremely frustrating. Plus, when someone constantly speaks over them, it can make them feel as if their words aren't valued or worth sharing, despite the effort it takes to phrase them aloud.
8. Unexpected Phone Calls
For extroverts, unexpected phone calls might sometimes be jarring, but they're usually welcomed and even encouraged. For introverts, these types of phone calls—no matter if they're from strangers or close friends—can immediately drain their energy, as it's similar to being suddenly put on the spot.
9. Sudden Adjustments to Plans
When plans are agreed on, introverts have a picture in their mind of how they'll unfold, and they take comfort in knowing what to expect. When sudden changes are made to these plans, however, it can throw off that sense of control and expectation, putting introverts back on edge.
10. Needing to Be "On" for Long Periods
What drains introverts the most? The feeling that they need to be "on." Introverts often adopt an "extroverted" persona to interact with their friends in social gatherings or with colleagues at work, but when they need to flip this switch on for long periods of time, it can deplete their energy.
What, then, are some activities that boost introverts' energy? Here are 10 things they love and enjoy:
1. Quiet Alone Time
Introverts love their quiet alone time; they can feel immediately recharged just by curling up in bed with a warm drink and a book in hand. With no constant chatter or noise to interrupt them in their element, this is when introverts can truly be themselves.
2. Listening to Music
Listening to music can be a relaxing way for introverts to meditate and calm down their minds, allowing them to restore their energy. Putting on their favorite playlist while they shake out the stress of the day may be just the thing they need.
3. Reading
Reading not only allows introverts to immerse themselves in a different world, but also gives them space to slow down and absorb the words on the page. Just curling up into a reading nook with a good book can immediately recharge an introvert's battery.
4. Writing
For a more creative release, introverts may also find peace and relaxation in writing or journaling. They may enjoy crafting poetry, prose, or simply jotting down what they did in a day. This gives them a great outlet to let their thoughts flow freely.
5. Going for a Walk
Going for a walk to reconnect with nature and enjoy the scenery around them can be extremely grounding for introverts. They may prefer to go in the early morning or afternoon for ultimate peace and quiet, but bringing a pair of headphones along never hurts, either.
6. Engaging in a Hobby
If writing and reading aren't an introvert's first choice, they may also like to recharge by doing crafts, arts, or exploring something entirely new. The key is finding something they enjoy spending time doing and allows them the space to express themselves creatively.
7. Warm Bath or Shower
Sometimes, just a warm bath or shower can hit the spot for introverts. It's no shocker that heat soothes the mind and body, and with a good book, a glass of wine, and soft background music, it's the perfect way to wind down after a long day.
8. Solo Meal
It's not that introverts don't enjoy eating with others, but enjoying a meal solo is sometimes more preferable. After all, if they're cooking at home, there's no extra external stimuli to overload their senses—just peace, quiet, and familiar surroundings.
9. Movie Marathon
A movie or TV show marathon is another way introverts love to recharge, especially when it's hard enough for them to find time in the week to do so. They may carve out space on the weekend to catch up on a series they've missed—an activity they'd much rather do than go out for a night out with friends.
10. Playing with Pets
Playing with pets is another way introverts like to restore their energy. Who doesn't love a good cuddle with their favorite pooch or feline? There's a reason spending time with our fluffy friends can be therapeutic, and introverts know exactly how to take advantage of that.
