Together Or Not Together?
We don't blame you if you struggle to see problems objectively when you're in a relationship. After all, when you love someone, it's common to turn a blind eye to bigger issues that you don't want to admit. However, when it comes to commitment struggles, that's something you should never ignore - it needs to be addressed. To make sure you take a proper look at your relationship, here are 10 signs your partner has commitment issues and 10 signs you can relax because they're secure.
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1. You Haven't Met Their Family
Still haven't met your partner's parents despite having dated for quite a while? It's clearly not about "finding the right time" anymore, it's a sign of commitment issues. This inaction demonstrates that your partner isn't willing or is simply too scared to take the next step to include you in their life.
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2. They Avoid Labels
As an adult, you're far too old to be dating someone who struggles with the "are we, aren't we" stage. Avoiding labels isn't just fun and games, it's an indicator that they don't want things to be too serious. They might enjoy your company, but they don't want to be committed to you.
3. They Never Bring Up The Future
Relationships are all about taking the next step together, so if your partner has yet to say a word about the future, it just means they're not thinking about it. And if they're not planning for it, your relationship is pretty much stuck. It's time to ask yourself whether or not this is something you're okay with.
4. They Never Make Plans
If they struggle to make even the simplest of plans like a dinner on the weekend, something's up. Whether it's planning a big trip next year or a small date night next week, if your partner doesn't bother with making plans, it just shows they're not committed to you and making the effort.
5. You Haven't Met Their Friends
It's one thing if you haven't met their family yet, but it's another if you haven't met their friends yet either! At this point, it just feels like they're too scared to show everyone that you're real! Without meeting their friends, it's hard to feel like you're "officially" together if no one knows you exist.
6. They Never Mention You To Others
It's not about bragging rights or flattery, being brought up in conversations is a simple sign that you're on their mind and that the things you do together matter. If your partner has never mentioned you to others, you might as well be an imaginary boyfriend or girlfriend.
7. They Lack Communication Skills
We all know that communication is the foundation of a healthy, solid relationship. Without it, partners can be veering off in opposite directions without either of them knowing. So if you're with someone who refuses to open up and share their future plans, there's a chance it's because they don't agree with yours. The only way to get through it is to talk.
8. They Say One Thing But Do The Other
Does your partner fill your head with pretty thoughts and ideas of moving in together, getting married, or going on a big trip, yet never matches their words with actions? It's one thing to suggest these things, it's another actually doing them. Don't be fooled by what they say; not following through shows they know what you want but aren't willing to give it to you.
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9. They Struggle To Trust You
Whether it's because they've been hurt in the past or they struggle with opening up, if your partner fails to build trust, it can be a sign of poor commitment. You can't move forward without having this key component present, meaning unless you both overcome this together, neither of you is going to feel fully committed to one another.
10. You Have A Gut Feeling
Never second guess your intuition. If something feels off, trust yourself! Especially when it comes to being treated right in a relationship. If you have a strong gut feeling that your so-called partner is not committing to you or has issues with commitment, it's time to get to the root of the problem. It's not going to fix itself!
1. They Maintain Healthy Boundaries
Respecting boundaries is about understanding both your partner's and your own. Everyone has their own set of likes and dislikes, and being in a relationship doesn't mean changing that. It's all about opening up to each other and building a solid foundation where you both feel comfortable enough to grow.
2. They Don't Question You
From career changes to small outings with friends, it means a lot when your partner doesn't question what you do. It signals a huge amount of trust, something that's present in the healthiest of relationships. While it's important that you two communicate and discuss things together, you shouldn't overlook their non-jealous behavior.
3. They Support You
Having a partner who knows when to be your rock and support is a sign that they want to be with you through the ups and downs of life. Don't stay with someone who leaves during your darkest hours, pick a partner who knows when you need support and is able to lift you up.
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4. They're Comfortable With Intimacy
Whether it's physical or emotional, being intimate with your partner forces you both to be vulnerable and open. It sounds easy, but building that level of comfort is a lot harder than it looks. True intimacy only comes when both partners are committed, invested, and love each other deeply.
5. They're Okay Being Apart
From taking business trips to going out with friends alone on the weekend, being able to enjoy time apart from each other is often an overlooked aspect of relationships. You shouldn't have to do everything with your partner, and it's not healthy anyway! Being able to grow together and independently are important for the relationship to grow and progress.
6. They Can Be Vulnerable With You
People generally don't open up to someone they don't plan on sticking around with; after all, why would you share your insecurities and fears if you're unsure the relationship is going to last? That's why when your partner is able to be vulnerable with you, you know it's a sign they're in for the long run.
7. They Share Their Future Plans
Does your partner's future always include you in it? If so, they're obviously considering how and where they'd like this relationship to go. It means they're fully invested and they plan on building a beautiful life together with you.
8. They're Not Afraid Of Conflict
Arguments in relationships are simply a fact of life: they're unavoidable. And while they seem like negative things, it's actually healthy to clear the air and talk things through. If you're with someone who's not afraid to discuss or even argue problems, it doesn't just mean they're confident in their conflict resolution skills, it's a sign they believe nothing could break you two apart.
9. They Have High Self-Esteem
Before you can love and provide for someone else, it's important that you're first able to do those things for yourself. Being with a partner who has a high self-esteem ensures that they're capable of being in a relationship and supporting you. They're secure and committed because they're in a good emotional space to be that.
10. They Don't Hide Anything
While you don't have to share everything in your life, being open and honest to the point that your partner doesn't have to fear you hiding anything is important. It's about building that trust and developing a relationship where you know the both of you don't worry about jealousy or suspicious behavior.
