There's no question that dating app burnout is a widespread issue. Prolonged exposure to various dating apps can leave you feeling empty, emotionally depleted, and frustrated by a lack of options in the world. You might be tempted to delete all your accounts, but also convinced that it's the only way to make meaningful romantic connections.
The main reason you're burnt out from dating apps is that it forces you to adopt the mentality of a consumer roaming the grocery store aisles. You spend your days and nights combing through messages from strangers, many of whom can't carry a conversation, and then selecting a few to meet in person, only for that to go south.
The first step to rectifying this situation is to recognize that the consumer mentality of dating apps is why you're feeling the impulse to give up on love.
Endless Options Even If Most Are Bad
The main driver behind dating app burnout is the never-ending amount of options. This plays into the "grass is always greener" mentality. You might start swiping to see if you can land on the right match, and if you do, there's still a nagging thought in your head that urges you to keep going.
Limited options have it's downside, sure, but an abundance can also cause issues. Here's the thing: you're not a consumer. You're a human being looking for connection, and you just need to change your approach. Instead of looking for the perfect match, try to connect with a few people who might share a mutual interest or have an interesting job or a look you find intriguing.
It's okay to strike out, but it's rarely good to never swing the bat.
Ghosting and Emotional Fatigue
Just like you would put back a product on a shelf when you decide not to buy it, ghosting is an easy way to cut a connection with a match that's not working. You don't need to have an awkward conversation, and there's no emotional breakup.
Then, there's getting ghosted, which can be emotionally draining. It leaves you wondering whether you didn't do something wrong or if you're not the catch you think you are. These situations are part of the consumer mentality that has hindered dating apps.
Lack of Authentic Connection
Being a consumer isn't an authentic experience in many ways, so it's not surprising that treating dating as a form of consumerism isn't going to pay dividends. Users' intentions will vary, and many are not upfront with them or may lie or withhold information about themselves. This lack of authenticity can create anxiety and self-doubt.
The transactional nature of online dating leans into the worst part of anyone's quest for love. It feels hopeless while also making you feel like the best option is only a swipe away.
For some, dating apps are a great way to meet potential romantic partners. For others, it's a frustrating experience that feels like the world's worst shopping trip. You don't have to unplug to change how you approach dating apps. It's always best to keep an open mind and keep re-evaluating your standards, not to lower them but to make sure they align with what you want.
