Just Be You!
When it comes to dating, it's easy to get confused about what's attractive and what's not. It seems like there's a laundry list of dos and don'ts, but ladies, it might be simpler than you think. In fact, here are 20 things society says are unattractive, but men adore during dates.
1. Laughing At The Wrong Time
Laughing at the wrong moment is often when your guard is down. He will know that you were not trying to hide yourself in those moments. Many men also appreciate how real that can be; it cuts through tension too, in a nice way.
2. Wearing Comfy Clothes
Baggy clothes often send signals of comfort and trust. When a woman does not put in work all the time, a man will notice, and not in a bad way. A sense of ease that is not related to appearance shows confidence, which makes a man feel like you two have moments just between each other.
3. Being Bad At Stuff
Humility and eagerness to learn are very attractive traits. Men will see that you care more about enjoying the process rather than a specific goal. It also shows that you do not let life be about perfection; failing can be fun, and your quirkiness shows it.
4. Talking Too Much
It can be difficult to understand someone going on and on about their interests. However, there is something endearing about talking nonstop. Men will love to see what is important to you or gets you out of your shell.
5. Eating What You Like
Ordering random food and enjoying it without shame can be very attractive. It shows that you know what you like and are not afraid to show it. Eating food is also one of those activities that can feel more performative than it should.
6. Opening Up
Sharing vulnerability can seem counterintuitive sometimes, but it’s essential for building a strong connection with your partner. While men may show appreciation for strength, they also want trust and honesty. Opening up to a man is an invitation for him to do the same.
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7. Being A Bit Messy
A messy room will often feel warmer than a sterile or clean one. A cluttered space suggests creativity, comfort, and a life filled with activity. Men may also find this more relatable than perfection; just make sure that it’s not a dumpster of a mess.
8. Not Knowing Everything
Asking questions and showing curiosity is a great way to show vulnerability. This will also let a man help you without being depended on in a toxic way. Questioning and not knowing everything is much more important than actually knowing everything.
9. Blushing
Blushing is a unique reaction that most people cannot hide. This shows that you are either excited or care about a situation or person. Men will notice these small moments as being sweet and sincere.
10. Being “Boring”
It is okay not to be the loudest voice in a group. A calm presence can often be a nice change. Men often like people who take the time to observe and listen, as opposed to always having to be stimulated and active.
11. Laughing At Yourself
The ability to laugh at your own mistakes and issues is a sign of resiliency. It will also show a man that you do not fear being less than perfect. This attitude is not only a relief, but it is also very mature and attractive.
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12. Having Unique Hobbies
Things like books, TV shows, movies, and small traditions show heart. Men love to see what you care about and why you attach meaning to small things. This adds a richness and depth to a relationship.
13. Being Clumsy
It is very normal to drop things, trip over words, or stumble as you walk. These things are very humanizing to a person. It will also let a man know that he is not only watching your highlight reel. Men often respond to clumsy behavior with protectiveness and warmth.
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14. Getting Indecisive
It is not a weakness to be uncertain of what you want or your decisions. Many men will even find it refreshing when you take the time to think about things before making a choice. It will show that you are thoughtful and do self-reflection.
15. Being Competitive
Playing hard at a game or an argument can be a lot of fun. Even if you are terrible at sports or lose an argument, there is a willingness to engage. Men often appreciate this playfulness in a relationship.
16. Showing Expressions
You might not like your smile or the way your laugh sounds, but men absolutely do. Smiling from ear to ear and showing your teeth, or letting your real laugh come out, can show that you are comfortable around your man. It makes them open up and be themselves around you as well.
17. Avoiding Social Media
Spending less time on social media will allow you to be present. Many men will also be very appreciative of this, as keeping up with what’s in and what’s trending can be exhausting. You show that you value real moments over captured ones.
18. Lacking Basic Skills
Not knowing something is absolutely fine. Not everyone knows everything, and men will often jump at the opportunity to do something for you and show you they are helpful. It makes them feel like they bring another thing to the table, however basic it may be.
19. Singing Badly
Being aware that you may not be the best singer shouldn’t stop you from doing it. Men often find it goofy and endearing to hear you sing, whether it sounds good or bad. It gives both you and them confidence to be silly, comfortable, and open in a cute way.
20. Being Yourself
The most loved trait is being your true self and not being sorry for it. Men will be most attracted to women who embrace who they are, and all the flaws that come with that person. Confidence comes from self-acceptance rather than a need to be perfect.
