Getting Your Profile Right
To all you men entering the dating world by signing up on some apps, we've got some tips you definitely will want to follow. When it comes to women, they have very specific likes and dislikes regarding profiles. Here are 10 things they love seeing from men right off the bat, and 10 you should avoid doing.
1. Genuine Smile
If there's one way to make your dating profile seem all the more approachable and friendly, it's adding a photo of you with the most genuine smile ever. Women love getting that positive vibe from you, and seeing your smile can only give you bonus attraction points.
2. Sense of Humor
When women are scrolling through dating profiles, they're looking for someone who comes across as kind, relaxed, and fun to be around. The best way to convey that is by displaying your sense of humor, which can give you a more easygoing feel they'll love and find attractive.
3. Active Lifestyle
Always include photos of you being active and not just sitting around! Women love seeing dating profiles that show you out and about living life. It shows a certain level of passion and adventure, and that you love living life to the fullest.
4. Ambition
Don't be afraid to show off your goals and aspirations, whether it be personal ones or career-related ones. It can come off as very handsome, especially when done in a humble, passionate way. Women will see you as driven and focused, two very appealing traits.
5. Pet Ownership
Pet owners love meeting other pet owners, and this is true even in the dating world! If you've got a pet, especially a dog, don't be afraid to post a photo you have with them. For women who also own a pet or love dogs, it gives you a relatable edge that'll work in your favor.
6. Travel Experiences
Similar to posting your active lifestyle, sharing your travel experiences or posting photos of you all over the world can peak a woman's interest. It makes you come across as free-spirited, adventurous, and perhaps looking for a travel buddy? It also works as a great conversation topic, one where you can share all your fun vacation stories.
7. Seriousness
For most women, they're not out on the dating apps looking for a guy who's a "hit it and quit it" kind of man. They're looking for and wanting someone that's more serious and dedicated. If you're also looking for a real connection, make sure you voice that clearly!
8. Family Values
While you may think being a family man might come across as cheesy on a dating profile, it's actually quite the opposite. Women can definitely appreciate someone who values their family relationships; it shows that you're a caring person and someone who puts effort into maintaining good relationships with others.
9. Shared Hobbies
Opposites may attract, but having shared hobbies is the real winner. Regardless of gender, everyone loves finding someone they have similarities with, whether it be a romantic partner, family member, or friend. It's a quick way to build a connection with someone new.
10. Well-Rounded Interests
But even if you don't find shared interests right off the bat, just voicing on your profile that you do have plenty of interesting hobbies is enough! It's always fun learning about what people enjoy and are passionate about, and it works great as a conversation topic when you're dating someone new.
1. Excessive Selfies
Maybe a few selfies is okay, but an entire profile filled with only selfies? No thank you. Photos can be great storytellers, letting people see a little bit of who you are. So if all you do is bombard people with photos of your face, you're not letting them get to know you! And on a dating app, that might be a pass for a lot of women.
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2. Lack of Information
Is there anything more frustrating than coming across a profile that has essentially no information on it? Where's the personality? While you don't need to share every little detail about yourself, you should put effort into creating a meaningful profile that can help some people connect with you.
3. Overused Clichés
As soon as cliché phrases like "live, laugh, love" show up on a dating profile, that's the moment a lot of people start swiping away. There's just something a little too cringey and boring about someone who uses overused sayings that have very little meaning.
4. Party Lifestyle
Whether it's having photos of yourself drinking and partying away, or just you constantly bringing it up, this can often be a red flag for women wanting something more serious. It might give them a bad impression, or leave them thinking that your lifestyle choices are too different to work something out.
5. Negative Language
No negativity please! Language is everything, and if you start coming off as someone who is mean, negative, or brooding, it'll definitely rub people the wrong way. It goes without saying that people are attracted to others who radiate positivity and kindness.
6. Showing Off
Confidence is always a great trait to have, but going too far and showing off can come off as being cocky or insensitive. There's no need to flaunt expensive jewelry, clothes, or cars. At the end of the day, people care more about who you are as a person than how much money you've got.
7. Generic Answers
If you're going to put yourself on a dating app, you might as well put some genuine thought and effort into it! Giving short, generic answers just makes you seem uncaring and uninterested. If you really want to make a good impression, give meaningful descriptions and answers.
8. Group Photos
While one or two group photos on your dating profile might be okay, only using group photos is just a little weird. People on your page shouldn't have to guess which one is you! We're not playing Find Waldo out here.
9. Poor Grammar and Spelling
Going hand-in-hand with putting effort on your profile, do your best to type with good grammar and proper spelling. It's not exactly attractive talking to someone who can't speak coherently. It might just come across as a lack of effort or clear disinterest.
10. Hidden Face
Last but not least, women hate seeing men's profiles where they're covering their faces. What's the point? Don't try to hide your face with hats, sunglasses, or weird angles - you're meant to give potential candidates as clear of a look at who you are without having met them first.
