What Are You Doing Tonight?
Hobbies are a major marker of someone's personality and lifestyle. You can learn a lot about someone just by learning about the things they like to do or engage in. However, not all hobbies are built the same, with some certainly coming off as better than others.
1. Reading
While the genre might matter to the person you’re talking to, reading in general is considered an intelligent and curious hobby. Not only does it make you a learned person, but it also means you’re capable of all sorts of conversations and have a reliable solo activity.
2. Learning Languages
While learning languages may seem more like an academic pursuit than a hobby, some people enjoy doing this in their free time. This not only shows ambition and cultural awareness, but broadens your global mindset and is a perfect companion to a traveling hobby.
3. Playing Piano
Any instrument will do, but piano certainly stands out as one of the most elegant and romantic instruments around. Either way, learning a musical instrument showcases you have refinement, patience, and creativity. It’s also one of those talents you can show off.
4. Painting
Painting is one of the most creative outlets one can pursue, and it’s also pretty accessible thanks to the plethora of tutorials, videos, and workshops out there. Of course, any creative outlet will do—you could even start with drawing or go all the way into sculpting.
5. Political Activism
While politics can get heated, most people like it when others engage in political activism and are aware. There’s nothing worse than someone who’s ignorant and has no social values or courage.
6. Volunteering
Volunteering is another way to showcase compassion and empathy for fellow humans. It’s considered a fulfilling good deed and shows that a person feels a sense of community and values human connections.
7. Writing
Another creative outlet is writing, and many relate it to having a philosophical mindset. Also, writing hones communication skills and critical thinking, and many people romanticize it as reading is another intelligent hobby.
8. Gardening
Gardening is not only a fun hobby, but also a very practical one. Not only does it show a connection to nature, but a person capable of gardening has patience and a nurturing personality. Additionally, this complements many other self-supportive lifestyles.
9. Cooking
Cooking is another super practical hobby, and lots of people use food as a love language. There’s nothing better than a partner that can cook you a restaurant-quality meal, and it certainly brings people closer together.
10. Swimming
Athletic hobbies are also very attractive, and swimming is unique as it can also complement an outdoorsy lifestyle. Either way, whether you prefer the community pool or the beach, it’s both a meditative and fitness-oriented hobby to have.
Now that we have talked about some of the most attractive hobbies, here are some of the least attractive ones.
1. Collecting
While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with collecting and people should showcase their passions, some people might not want to hear all about a collection on a first date or two. Cherish this hobby, and share it with those that are interested, but just don’t overwhelm a potential partner.
2. Clubbing
Clubbing is a fun part of growing up and is almost like a rite of passage many young adults go through. But either way, it can sometimes come across as indicating you’re still in a fun phase and aren’t interested in an actual serious relationship. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with wanting something casual either.
3. Crypto
Crypto has a lot of bad press around it due to the weird celebrities that surround it and the many scams associated with it. Crypto is used as a get-rich-quick scheme and can often hurt people, and most aren’t interested in crunching numbers on a date.
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4. Product Parties
This is just a fancy way of saying MLM schemes. Many people unfortunately get pulled into these pyramid plots and end up making their products and the lifestyle an integral part of their personality, which can be quite overwhelming and concerning.
5. Wine Culture
A fancy way of saying drinking, as calling it a hobby is an excuse many people use to mask troubling behavior. It’s totally okay to be interested in wines and to partake, but when you’re more so focused on filling your glass than saving it for special occasions, it can be concerning.
6. Social Media
Practically everyone has some form of social media, and it’s natural to bring up interesting things you see as a point for conversation. That being said, people who make the influencer lifestyle their entire personality and are more focused on getting photos for their phone than living in the moment come across as unattractive.
7. Equestrianism
This essentially refers to all horse-themed hobbies. While it’s totally okay to partake in horse riding, some people can use this sport as a way to lord themselves over others. As it’s an expensive hobby, it can come across as a bit classist and high-maintenance.
8. Online Trolling
If you spend a fair bit of your day engaging with trolls online or leaving pointless comments over things, it can be a bit intimidating and unattractive to a potential partner. Being aware of things online is good, but engaging too heavily certainly isn’t.
9. Taxidermy
Many people are weirded out by the process of taxidermy, which involves making replicas of animals, usually with parts of actual animals. This is something many hunters do to showcase their trophies, but for most people, it seems insensitive.
10. No Hobbies
Perhaps the worst hobby anyone can have is no hobby at all. It’s important to have passions and interests in life, and if there isn’t anything in the world that catches your interest, people might think twice about subjecting themselves to that pressure.
