Some traits have been sold as irresistible for decades, but plenty of women are tired of being told they should find them attractive. This countdown looks at 20 supposedly desirable qualities that may actually be major turnoffs.

From playing hard to get, jealousy, bad boy behavior, and negging to alpha male posturing, showing off, refusing to take no for an answer, emotional unavailability, and never showing vulnerability, this list challenges some familiar dating stereotypes.

We will also look at controlling behavior disguised as decisiveness, sarcasm becoming an entire personality, constantly needing to win, flashy status symbols, dramatic public gestures, and trying too hard to appear protective or tough.

Attraction is personal, and confidence works much better when it comes with respect, communication, and emotional maturity.

Watch until the end and tell us which supposedly attractive trait you think is actually a turnoff.