You’ve Got Nowhere To Go But Up
It’s nice to be single, except of course, when you don’t want to be single. Navigating the dating world has always been difficult, but the introduction of online dating has made potential relationship connections lukewarm at the best of times. If you’re noticing some questionable patterns of behavior from yourself, you may want to get a better grasp on where you are, emotionally speaking.
You’re Flaky
You match with someone. It’s going well. You move to another social media app, or possibly even to text. Their name with their corresponding dating app are saved in your phone. You make plans to see each other, maybe even try out a new restaurant you’ve been hearing is good. The day finally comes… and you stop responding to their texts, block their number, and unmatch with them. We don’t mean to sound mean, but you actually have to do the scary thing for a possible romance to bloom.
It’s More For The Clicks
Sure, everyone wants a little attention now and again, and online dating is like an all-you-can-eat buffet for compliments and easy conversation. That said, if you’re already feeling pretty low in the self-esteem department, you may be leading people on for the sake of feeling good. Maybe try some positive affirmations in the mirror before checking Tinder, yeah?
You’re Considering Alternative Avenues
If you started online dating because the IRL dating scene just wasn’t cutting it, you’re not the only one. The second, and fair scarier, level of this endless cycle is when online dating gets so bad that you start thinking a little too hard about a close friend, a coworker, or the barista who smiled at you earlier in the day. And hey, real-life dating does work, but if it comes on the heels of an unsuccessful e-dating life, you may want to take a step back.
Feelings Of Despair
If the idea of opening your apps fills you with a prolonged and serious sense of dread, it may be time for a break. It’s normal to feel these feelings after facing some intense rejection, maybe that you’re not even worthy of a real relationship, but soaking in those feelings won’t help at all. We promise you that.
You’re Open To -Everything-
The alternative to the flaky type, hitting rock bottom in the dating world, means putting yourself in potentially awkward or uncomfortable situations, either due to a clash of personalities or a lack of physical interest. Sure, you may be thinking that you’re keeping your options open, but that bad feeling in your stomach shouldn’t be ignored.
What To Do Instead
Rather than languishing on your respective apps, maybe try one of the following:
Focus on yourself; pursue hobbies and interests that you enjoy.
Open up; talking about how you’re feeling can be an eye-opening experience.
Practice self-worth; don’t let those clowns bring you down.
See your buds; engaging in valuable time with loved ones helps tremendously.
Take a break; the hoard of singles in your area won’t be going anywhere anytime soon.
