10 Cliché Compliments Women Are Tired of Hearing & 10 They Wish They Heard More
Complimenting Women 101
No matter how you slice it, it's nice to get complimented as long as it's respectful. However, while some remarks fall flat, others are hugely impactful and will have her smiling to herself all day long. Here are 10 cliche compliments women are sick of and 10 they love.
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1. You're So Beautiful
Yawn! While it's nice to be told that you're good-looking, it just doesn't have a strong impact and can come off shallow.
2. You Have Beautiful Eyes
The classic line every man uses to lean in close and maybe try for a kiss just doesn't work too well anymore, fellas. It's something every woman has probably heard so try to keep it more unique.
3. How Are You Single?
This is one of the worst things to say to a modern woman as it implies the only reason she would choose to be single is that she can't get a man. In fact, some women choose to be single because they're independent like that.
4. You're So Nice
There is a lot of societal pressure on women to always be agreeable so hearing "you're so nice" is actually kind of annoying. It's also pretty boring as being "nice" is kind of the least any of us can do.
5. You Look Younger Than Your Age
In the Western world, youth in women is so highly valued, girls go to great, sometimes unhealthy, lengths to achieve looking forever young. Commenting on a woman looking young, although flattering, also implies that you value that shallow quality.
6. You Have A Beautiful Smile
Being told you have a beautiful smile when you're smiling naturally kind of makes you self-consious and might take away from that genuine action. It's another thing girls get told all the time and can only come off sounding cliche.
7. I Love Your Outfit
Girls say some version of this to each other all the time just to break the ice. If you really want to flatter a woman, get more specific and keep it authentic.
8. You Look So Skinny
It's never a good idea to comment on how someone's body looks. Being told you're skinny can make a person think they look unwell. Even though it fits a certain beauty standard that the fashion industry has been shoving in our faces for decades, being skinny isn't desireable to everyone.
9. You Make It Look So Easy
Women get told this all the time while they're juggling multiple tasks, usually by someone who's doing far less. Instead of standing around commenting on all that she's doing, maybe step in and make yourself useful!
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10. You're Smart
Being told you're smart is always nice. However, it comes off sounding dumb if it's not about anything specific. Try to personalize it more to really make it memorable.
Now that we've gone over some of the compliments that make women secretly role their eyes, let's go over some effective ones that will make their day.
1. You're So Strong
Women are often pressured to be small and dainty, so to be told "you're strong" is impactful. This is especially good if you know that she's been hitting the gym or if it's in the context of performing well in a sport.
2. You're Beautiful, Inside And Out
Being told only "you're beautiful" is too focused on external elements. However, saying someone is beautiful on the inside as well is much more heartwarming, thoughtful, and deep.
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3. I Like How You Handled That
Whether it was something she said or did, telling her you appreciate the way she went about something indicates that you value how she thinks and acts in life, not just how she looks. Additionally, it demonstrates that you pay attention.
4. You're So Cool
Everyone wants to be cool but women don't get to hear this enough. Letting her know that you think she's cool indicates that you value her personality.
5. You're Really Great To Talk To
It's always nice to know you're killing it socially. Telling her this shows that you value your connection and genuinely enjoy her company.
6. You're Funny
Another compliment that shows you value her brain, being told you have a good sense of humor is nice because it means that person gets you. Just make sure to say it at an appropriate time i.e. not when she's saying something that's meant to be serious.
7. I Like Your Energy
Although it's not terribly specific, telling her you like her vibe is a nice way to compliment her without coming on too strong. What's more, it's not focused on her looks.
8. You Have Great Taste
Whether it's music, movies, books, fashion, or something else entirely, complimenting her taste is super flattering without being creepy. It means you pay attention and probably have similar taste too.
9. You Inspire Me And Others
It's always incredible to know you have a positive effect on people. Many of us don't realize this about ourselves and take for granted how awesome we are so telling her this will surely make her day and let her know you notice.
10. You're So Brave
Things like bravery and strength are often reserved for men, but women like to hear it too. It's a unique compliment that will make her feel empowered.
