How Well Do You Know Your Other Half?
Deep questions will lead to a deeper connection with your partner. As we settle into our daily lives, we tend to overlook the traits of our loved ones. Whether you’re in the honeymoon stage or past your 20th anniversary, there are things you might discover about your lover. To better understand each other, here are questions to ask your sweetheart that will help your relationship prosper.
1. What did you like the most and least about where you grew up?
Asking childhood questions like this will give you a better understanding of their upbringing. You can make connections to their personality and habits by knowing about life before you were in it. How we were raised can have a strong influence on our adult lifestyle.
2. What’s something that brings you joy in everyday life?
This is a delightful question that is easy to overlook. You might think you already know the answer but what your partner says may surprise you. It’s nice to know the things they’re grateful for and how to make them smile.
3. What are important lessons you’ve learned from past relationships?
Knowing about your partner’s past relationships will help you understand the way they act in yours. Their answer will expose their emotional intelligence, personal growth, and vulnerability. It could also bring up old patterns and red flags you should look out for.
4. What are your three favorite traits of mine?
You might blush, but asking this question is good for your self-esteem and your understanding of what they value in a person. Find out why they fell in love with you–– you deserve the fuzzy feelings.
5. What factors do you base your life decisions on?
You can compare their answer with yours to see how well your decision-making aligns. This question could be beneficial for the future of your relationship and whether you have similar aspirations and obstacles in life.
6. What do you need from me to feel supported and fulfilled?
It’s important to know their expectations and how you can support their emotional needs. Learn what makes them feel loved and cared for and how you can empower each other. This will deepen your connection on an emotional level and will strengthen your trust.
7. Is there anything in our relationship that bothers you?
It’s better to know what gets on their nerves so you can come up with a solution together. It will also prevent them from bottling it up and causing a bigger fight in the future. Being open and honest about the good and the bad is healthy for your relationship.
8. What are your goals and dreams?
You should know each other's life goals to motivate one another and reach accomplishments together. You’re their biggest cheerleader and they need you on the sidelines. You’ll also want to know if you’re dreams align and you can take the journey together.
9. How do you compare yourself to your family?
Family members can play a large role in someone’s life and influence their personality traits. It’ll be interesting to hear what your partner thinks about their family and how you can connect the dots from your perspective of them. Plus you’ll want to know what sort of family you’re merging into!
10. What’s something about love that surprised you?
A question about love will deepen your intimacy and fuel the chemistry between you. This question will take some thought and expose your partner's emotional awareness. Their answer might take you by surprise too.
11. If you could have any superpower what would it be?
The answer to this fun question can tell you a lot about a person by unveiling their core desires, imagination, altruism, and more. Their chosen superpower might also uncover hidden aspirations they have for their reality.
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12. Do you have any regrets or things you wish you did differently?
Therapy works because it lets us talk about something negative so that eventually we can let it go. Asking your partner this hard question is good for their mental health and your true understanding. The more open you are with each other about painful topics, the better you'll both feel in the long run.
13. What are your thoughts on spirituality and religion?
It’s good to know what beliefs you share or if you have different outlooks on life. Religion will impact how someone acts in a relationship and you want to make sure you're on the same page. This question digs deep under the surface to unearth complex answers.
14. What’s your love language?
If you don't already know, you can take an online quiz to find out what your love language is. Whether it's acts of service or words of affirmation, knowing what you and your partner value most is important to fulfill each other's needs and show you truly care.
15. How do you feel about forgiveness and trust?
The healthiest relationships are built on trust and forgiveness. It can take a long time to fully trust someone and you want to know where you both draw the line. We all make mistakes so it's beneficial to find out how well your partner handles apologies.
16. What is most important to you about parenting?
Whether you're already a parent or starting the conversation, it's a good question to ask to find out more about their values and behavior with kids. Parenting styles vary and acknowledging one another's approach can help you learn and grow together.
17. What is your favorite memory with me?
Sharing fond memories together will spark a pleasant conversation as you relive good times from the past. Their answer may be different from yours and it'll be nice to hear their perspective. Talking about the past could spring up new ideas for your future.
18. What does your perfect life look like if you had no limits?
This is a complex question for some people and their answers may unveil something you both didn't know. You'll really get to know someone's truest dreams and purpose in life with how they answer this question.
19. What do you love about yourself?
They say you must love yourself before you can truly love someone else. Find out what your sweetheart loves about themselves because their answer will expose a lot about them, and remind you why you fell in love with them too.
20. Which of the five senses is most sensual to you?
Sight, smell, touch, taste, or sound–– which turns your lover on the most? This question will bring your intimacy closer for obvious reasons. It might be a good one to ask during a romantic dinner.
