×

20 Ways To Survive Mother's Day After Losing A Parent


20 Ways To Survive Mother's Day After Losing A Parent


How You Can Spend a Difficult Day

Many of us celebrate Mother’s Day without a care in the world, but it’s not always flowers and brunch for everyone. After losing a parent, many people have a rougher time during such holidays—which is why we’ve compiled a few ways you can cope. 

A woman standing in the woods with her face paintedEmrecan Dora on Unsplash

1. Take a Day Off

It’s only natural to feel an influx of emotions on difficult days. Give yourself some deserved grace by taking the day off. Regardless of how you celebrate, if you even choose to, you’ll have the whole day to yourself. 

person holding notepad and pen flat lay photographyMarissa Grootes on Unsplash

2. Be Patient With Yourself

Grief affects us in all sorts of ways, so remember to be patient with yourself this Mother’s Day. It’s okay not to be okay. Cry if you need to. Be patient with any anger. Remember, you haven’t done anything wrong for not having any outward displays of emotion either. 

Ron LachRon Lach on Pexels

3. Meet With Other Family

Whether it’s your siblings or some other mothers in your life, spending time with your family can be a great way to spend Mother’s Day. You can share stories, head to a restaurant, or just enjoy some time together.

a group of women sitting on top of a blanket in a parkJerry Wang on Unsplash

Advertisement

4. Buy Flowers

Flowers are a Mother’s Day staple, so you can always buy a fresh bouquet. Some people make a day of it by heading to a grave site. Others like to plant them in their mother’s honor. Some simply keep them in the house. Whatever you choose to do, don’t rule out those bright blooms. 

assorted-color flowers on brown wicker basketAnnie Spratt on Unsplash

5. Try to Avoid Triggers

Not everyone wants to celebrate Mother’s Day after such a devastating loss—and that’s okay! Try to avoid your triggers to make it easier on yourself: unplug for the day, reach out to your support group, or indulge in a little self-care. 

cottonbro studiocottonbro studio on Pexels

6. Set a Place at the Table

Your mother may not be there physically, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still honor her. Setting a place at the table can acknowledge her everlasting presence in your life and can provide a sense of comfort. 

Max VakhtbovycnMax Vakhtbovycn on Pexels

7. Write a Letter or a Card

There’s nothing wrong with writing your mom a heartfelt letter. There’s nothing wrong with buying her a Mother’s Day card either. Both can help you express your feelings and provide a therapeutic sense of catharsis. 

RDNE Stock projectRDNE Stock project on Pexels

8. Indulge in Self-Care

Mother’s Day can be rough on a lot of people, which is exactly why you deserve self-care. Go for a nice, long walk. Take a relaxing bubble bath. Treat yourself to a night at the movies. However self-care looks for you, indulge in your favorite activities. 

woman holding bookToa Heftiba on Unsplash

9. Remember the Good Times

This holiday is a great time to remember your favorite things about your mom. It could be anything from her sense of humor to the lessons she taught you. They’re also incredible to share among family!

woman lying on bed covering her face surrounded by photos and white cameraian dooley on Unsplash

Advertisement

10. Treat it Like Any Other Day

No one said you have to celebrate Mother’s Day at all. Some people prefer to treat it like any other day, and that’s completely healthy too. If you’d rather not think about it, go about your life and remember that it’s more than okay to do so. 

Leeloo The FirstLeeloo The First on Pexels

11. Light a Candle

Sometimes the simplest gestures hold the largest meaning. Lighting a candle can be an effective way to honor your loss, especially since it isn’t an over-the-top gesture. You can light one near a photo of her or keep it burning by the window.

two lit tealight candlesOlga Vyshnevska on Unsplash

12. Reach Out to Others

Don’t think you have to go through this alone. Loved ones understand your struggle and want to support you—all you have to do is let them. Reach out to your support group and tell them what you need.

Liza SummerLiza Summer on Pexels

13. Break Out Photo Albums

What better way to remember your mother than to go through photo albums? They’re basically like flip-through time capsules, and they’re often a terrific way to reminisce about everything you loved.

old photos in brown wooden chestRoman Kraft on Unsplash

14. Plant a Tree in Her Honor

If you’re not a flowers kind of person, trees are another fantastic option. Planting them not only honors her memory, but it also keeps you busy, which can help take your mind off things. You’re also doing the planet some good!

Akil  MazumderAkil Mazumder on Pexels

15. Go for a Walk

Nothing clears our head like a good walk, so get out there and enjoy nature. The best thing about them is just how customizable they are—hit the trails for a chance to meet new people or stick to hikes for serene alone time.

man in blue jacket standing on pathway during daytimeCole Keister on Unsplash

Advertisement

16. Honor a Tradition

Our moms bestow dozens of beautiful traditions on the family, and Mother’s Day is the perfect way to honor them. From making a family recipe to gathering the family for a movie night, those traditions can make the whole day a little better.

On  ShotOn Shot on Pexels

17. Unplug From Social Media

People naturally love to share their lives on social media, but that’s also a giant trigger for some. Keep off those platforms to avoid making yourself feel worse. We could all use a break from social media anyway.

turned on gold iphone 6Sara Kurfeß on Unsplash

18. Lean on Community

There is a silver lining to grief: many people have experienced the same thing and can help you move forward in a healthy way. Whether it’s group therapy sessions or even just an online forum, don’t be afraid to reach out to those who understand what you’re going through.

Antoni Shkraba StudioAntoni Shkraba Studio on Pexels

19. Make Her Favorite Meal

We all have a favorite meal! Mother’s Day is a good time to sink your teeth into your mom’s ultimate dish. If you’re up for it, listen to some music along the way and get cooking. Those nostalgic scents can make you feel right at home, too.

onions and potato on tableSyd Wachs on Unsplash

20. Make a Donation in Her Honor

One of the simplest and most impactful things you can do for Mother’s Day is to donate in her honor. There’s no shortage of great causes that need help, and you can even focus on ones that were important to her specifically.

person showing both hands with make a change note and coinsKatt Yukawa on Unsplash